Posts filed under: ‘entertainment‘




Seriously Looking and Not Taking Myself Too Seriously


I mean, really, even I’m willing to admit that the minute some guy with nice arms and a genuine smile comes prancing in, even if my instinct tells me that he’s unavailable, I’m still gonna swoon. I’m still gonna imagine what it might be like to take him home and turn him into Baskins-Robbins.

Or maybe I’ll actually date the guy and I’ll be head over heels for about three months and then something will happen, the spark will die and/or he’ll just suddenly not text or call. Or he’ll be more into me than I am into him and I’ll have to literally file charges to get him to keep his distance.

Or maybe he’ll turn out to be gay and we’ll become BFFs and still never find “the one” while passing the time and commiserating over lemon meringue martinis on a warm summer night. (This one I wouldn’t mind, especially since I love lemon meringue martinis to death).

I recently read a quote somewhere that Taylor Swift ruined dating for the author because she set up all these unachievable examples of how to find true love (also noting that Ms. Swift is single, these days, as well). I admit that Taylor Swifts songs are so saccharine (albeit catchy) that they make me roll my eyes when I hear them. On the other hand, Britney Spears’ songs are catchy too and sexy, but they are also the extreme on the musical relationship dial; that is to say, that neither of their songs convey how actual relationships happen, but rather they convey (like all fiction should) the fantasy of how things could happen. Or, like I tell my kids, “these songs are fun to listen to, but they are not road maps, kids…”

The same goes for romantic comedies. There are far too many people that I run into (married and single), who believe that their love life will somehow work out like a romantic comedy. I realized that this was utter b.s. when I discovered that the wacky foibles that happen in real life are not as easy (or even cheap) to fix as they are in a 90 minute flick. Granted, I wish some things were possible, but trouble looks good on Justin Bateman because he’s a highly paid actor and I am never going to be able to do that “one thing” that Jennifer Aniston did in that movie because, well, you will never be able to pay me enough.

Seriously, I’m not looking for Prince Charming. I mean, really, when I see that visual, I think Prince Charles and his big ears and big nose and I’m totally turned off.

I’ll settle for a normal, every day, guy next door who might be a little wacky sometimes, but lives in the here and now and someone whom I can take seriously.

Besides, I would be lying if I said that I was SUCH an awesome catch that you need never worry about finding love with another…

Excuse me while I catch my breath from laughing so hard.

I wish I was THAT good. But, I’m just a woman that wants to be loved for who she is, warts and all. I very much desire for someone else to take me seriously enough to want to get to know my heart and mind, not just my body.

In the meantime, I’ll keep my wits and my sense of humor about me because if you can’t laugh, the other alternatives are tears or anger and this face is too pretty for all that drama.

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Add a comment February 25, 2011

Diva Day: Learning To Enjoy Being Alone


This morning, I took a hot bubble bath and for lunch, I took myself out to Starbucks for a red velvet cupcake and a white chocolate mocha. It’s a weekly tradition that I have tried to participate in for 20 years.

I call it a “Diva Day”, now, but 20 years ago I used to call it a “Bitch Day” because I used to claim that day as an opportunity to say “no” where I might usually say “yes”. If I didn’t want to do it, I didn’t. Eventually, people who knew me knew not to ask unless it was the day before or the day after.

It’s not a huge deal, but it’s kind of a mental health day; an opportunity for me to get out around other adults. I don’t have to wait for a special date or any other special occasion; it’s Monday, Diva Day. It’s one way that I have learned to appreciate being single and being alone, even if others around me are coupled up. On Diva Day the point is NOT to share; the point is to relish the solitude and not having to explain the why or the how of anything.

Diva Day is a way to remind myself of why being single can be a lot of fun, such as not having to share my cake or rush to finish mine because I’m on somebody else’s schedule. I can go and sit and purposefully enjoy the swirled whipped icing, either using my fingertips or my tongue. I can catch the crumbs from the cake in my hands and pop them in my mouth or lick the palm of my hand like a youngster might do. I can get as big a coffee as I want or as many cupcakes as I fancy without concern, because I’m paying my own way so I can get exactly what I want without having to weigh out the possible “expectations”. It doesn’t matter where I sit or how I sit, I’m not sending out any kind of mixed signals except maybe “I wish I could sit in a comfy chair instead of this lame wooden one”. An added bonus is that 85% of other people there are also there alone, so nobody questions why I’m by myself. Of course, they may be pissed that I took one of the comfy seats, but hey, “you snooze, you lose…”

Sometimes a Diva Day takes me to the movies or to a restaurant, rather than a coffee and cupcake.

Each Diva Day that I actively participate in (since I sometimes get side-tracked by work, weather, or life, in general), is more empowering because it acts as a reminder that I do not have to be with someone else to enjoy myself; my happiness in “this moment” (or that one) does not need to rely on the presence of an “other” (significant or otherwise).

I enjoy my alone time, immensely. I’ve never really been the kind of woman that needed a guy in my stratosphere at all times, anyway. I’m more than happy to let the man/men in my life have all the space they needed (so long as we both still made time for the relationship/s).

Diva Day is still important, even when I’m in a positive, long-term relationship. Granted, I let it slide when I got married and had babies and finding time for myself was more about grabbing a moment than grabbing an afternoon. Now, thankfully, my kids are old enough to watch out for themselves for a few hours while I take myself out on my weekly jaunt.

Whether you call it “me time” or “a personal day” or “bitch day” or even, Diva Day, I highly recommend taking yourself out as part of a good mental health regimen, whether you are single or not.

Add a comment February 22, 2011

Where Do You Get Your Energy From?



You Get Your Energy From Goals


You are a driven and results oriented person. You always have an end goal in sight.

You bring a lot of purpose and meaning to your life. For you, small decisions and actions matter.

You feel like you are on an important mission, and you do your best not to lose focus.

For you, nothing feels better than accomplishment. You love being productive.

Where Do You Get Your Energy From?
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Add a comment February 21, 2011

Are You Confident?



You Are Completely Confident


You’re a total superstar – and you know it. You aren’t afraid to love yourself.

You have the guts to be who you are. You believe that you are important and special. 

You have plenty of reasons to be confident. And you’re always working to be a better person.

You have many passions and talents. You truly appreciate and love your life.

Are You Confident?
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Add a comment January 26, 2011

What Madonna Song Are You?



You Are Ray of Light


You are optimistic and hopeful. You can’t help but see the light in every situation.

You are able to see things from a more spiritual viewpoint. You have the gift of perspective.

 

You respect the cycle of life. You know that you will experience both joy and pain.

You try to realize that you are just a small part of something infinite.

What Madonna Song Are You?
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Add a comment January 25, 2011

Take The Three Factor Emotions Test



You Are Very Emotionally Savvy


You listen to your emotions and always check in with them. You believe they are important.

When it comes to making decisions, you listen to how you are feeling. Your emotions provide valuable clues.

 

Your emotions are always immediately clear to you. You always know what you are feeling.

You are able to feel what you need to feel without having it impact your life.

You know how to keep your negative emotions in check and under wraps.

You are able to get out of a funk simply by thinking positive thoughts.

The Three Factor Emotions Test
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Add a comment January 21, 2011

Thursday Blogthings: Are You Living The Wrong Life?



Your Life is 57% Off Track


Right now, you’re taking things one day at a time.

Some things are going well, but you can’t help but wonder if you’re getting the most out of life.

It’s time for you to slow down and reflect a little. You can change your life – but it’s up to you!

Are You Living The Wrong Life?
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Add a comment December 30, 2010

Monday BlogThings: Take The Four Factor Self-Actualization Test



You Are Very Self Actualized


Your awareness is high. You notice everything – you are extremely detail oriented.
 

 

Your honesty is medium. You’re somewhat open, but there are a few secrets you keep to yourself.

Your freedom is high. You need to be completely independent and free to do whatever you feel like.

Your trust is high. You trust other people easily, and more importantly, you trust yourself.

The Four Factor Self-Actualization Test
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Add a comment December 28, 2010

Thanksgiving Day Blogthings: What Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade Float Are You?



You Are Grover


You are like a superhero on Thanksgiving. You do enough work for three people.

You enjoy staying busy, and it’s likely that you have huge ambitious for your Thanksgiving meal.

 

You enjoy this holiday to the fullest, and you like to celebrate every tradition.

If you’re not up early watching the parade while having a special breakfast, something has gone really wrong!

What Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade Balloon Are You?
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Add a comment November 25, 2010

Monday Blogthings: Are You A Marilyn Or An Audrey



You Are More Like Audrey Hepburn


You are classy, stylish, and charming. You are the true definition of grace.

Some people may think you’re a pushover, but they have no idea how tough you can be.

 

You tend to draw people in with your mind. You are an intelligent and witty flirt.

You are effortlessly gorgeous and naturally appealing. No one would accuse you of trying too hard.

Are You More Marilyn or Audrey?
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Add a comment November 22, 2010

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